What is all the hype about flirting and why should you bother? If you are a single woman interested in making a connection with a wonderful single man, flirting is a great way to get noticed. Flirting is not just about how you interact; it's about how you dress, how you talk, and your body language, among other things. Flirting says you are a confident woman who is easy to talk to.
First, how you dress:
If you are a woman who would rather not bother with dressing up, have you considered that men might not want to bother talking to you if you are content to wear sweats in shades of gray? Men look first, and if they like what they see, they are more likely to approach you. Get with a trusted girlfriend and take a look at your closet if you are not sure what looks good and feminine.
Look, I was never a "girly girl" when I was younger. But I gave it a shot and I found I enjoyed the attention I got as a result. I am not extreme with it; I chose what worked for me. And you can too.
Next, how you talk:
You do not have to do a Marilyn Monroe pout and sexy voice to be flirty. Talking about upbeat subjects, smiling, and making eye-contact are sexy, girls! Asking a man to talk about himself and listening attentively can be flirty (but not if you're interrogating him). Flirting does not need to be blatantly sexual. Friendly flirting with hints that you are enjoying the company of the man you are talking to is enough.
What about body language?
When you are interested in someone, you lean forward. You let him know you like what he has to say. You can wear a low neckline and lean forward, but come on! That seems too forward and maybe even desperate. Preferably, you let him know that you like him by engaging him in conversation, lightly touching his arm when you are making a point, or playfully punching him in the arm (lightly, ladies) if he makes a joke or teases you.
By Michelle E. Vasquez
Michelle E. Vasquez, MS, LPC, helps single women over 40 find, attract, and keep the love of their lives by teaching them how to understand what they require to create a happy, successful relationship. She has a growing specialty in helping widows find love again after loss.