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According to the popular ideal, a  “feminine” woman controls her emotions, body size, shape and reproductive system. And this control is particularly threatened, or at least in question, during menopause (Most women reach menopause between the ages of 45 and 55, but menopause may occur as early as the 30s or 40s or may not occur until a woman reaches her 60s). Not surprisingly, one of the most common feelings reported by the women I worked with was that of feeling out of control.”


Counselor, Lafern Page, in her book, “Menopause and Emotions: Making Sense of Your Feelings When Your Feelings Make No Sense,” indicates that body image distortion has become a huge problem for women, and also for men, due to the way advertising bombards us with made up images of perfect people - perfectly slim, symmetrical and beautifully made up! We are supposed to be models of perfect control. People of all ages are affected by this constant exposure.


Lafern’s research suggests that for many women, self-image and physical appearance are pretty much interchangeable. This leads to a disconnect between the outward physical presentation and the actual body. Both the idea of appearance being self-image and the resulting separation between our bodies and our selves could certainly explain in large part the constant striving for thinness, and the extreme end of that continuum, anorexia. And when peri-menopause begins, with its often surprising changes, the loss of control is pretty shocking to a lot of women.


Lafern Page’s book was written over 10 years ago, and the media manipulation of body image has grown significantly since then. Even if we haven’t bought into the young and perfect look, when a size 10 model is considered a “large size”, (even though the average woman over 25 is size 12), we can’t help but look at ourselves and find something lacking. All that perfection makes us feel rotten!


Women are ‘supposed to be’ - and stay - slim and fit at all ages, so as to fit the stereotype of perfection, (as well as for health reasons). And we as women are definitely not supposed to talk about our biological functions, especially the transition through menopause. Puberty is honored as a biological and developmental transition and it is understood that young women (and men) need some time and some space to grow into adults.  Yet, the same respect is denied us as women in one of the most significant changes we will ever go through.


“I’d given up, humiliated by my belly fat” -reads an ad on a menopause blog. Why should this be humiliating? Susun Weed, whose well-known book on natural treatment, Menopausal Years, Wise Woman Ways, has been reprinted many times, and says that the years leading up to menopause are the time to actually gain a little weight.

Why is weight gain good now?

Yes, gain weight! Most women I speak to aren’t aware of this, because doctors don’t tell us, and the ‘how-to’ articles certainly wouldn’t.


If we gain about 10 pounds in the years leading up to menopause, we retain more estrogen because it stores in the fat tissue of our hips, thighs and buttocks. The estrogen helps control some of the symptoms of menopause, and even more importantly, helps our bone health. Visit to check out Weed’s article: Healthy Bones the Wise Woman Way.


The media generally gives a very distorted view of aging. However, Ad campaigns like Dove’s “Campaign for Real Beauty” showing women with all size bodies is a great beginning. For more information, visit their website at Let’s keep looking for all kinds of ‘alternative’ representations of health.


By Ellen Besso

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Our purpose in life has already been stored on the inside of your soul waiting for your discovery.

How many times have you looked at yourself in the mirror and asked yourself, why am I here? What is my purpose in life?

Do you feel like you have not accomplished anything that is important to make your life worthwhile to yourself as well as to others?

When you have a positive attitude you can figure out what your purpose in life is. Your mind will be clearer and will be able to focus on things that really matter.

When your mind is clear and you are focused you can accomplish things more easily and faster.

Our purpose may be to raise our children into loving, caring and kind adults. You are helping to raise the future of our world. We want our world to be full of loving; caring and kind people versus those that do not care and people who are selfish.

Our purpose may be helping the elderly. You may have a special place in your heart for senior folks. You may like to listen to their stories from days gone by, learn about history from them or just simply hug them. Spending time with them makes your day brighter. Senior folks need someone to love, to care and to listen to them as well as hold a conversation with them. You will never know how special something as simple as a hug is to an elderly person, so hug them as often as you can.

Our purpose in life may be to teach others. You may decide to become a teacher so you can educate the children in your area. If your passion is teaching, you will excel at it, so get moving today. Kids and parents can tell when a teacher truly loves his or her job versus just doing it for the money and a way to survive.

Our purpose in life may be to care for animals. Maybe you want to become a veterinarian or vet technician. You can help with the care of many different animals that are dear to your heart. You will be spreading the love to the pet’s owners as well. People love it when others are kind, caring and gentle to their beloved pet.

After all, most folks consider their pet(s) part of their family.

Our purpose in life may be to spread motivational inspiration to others. We may enjoy reading quotes that inspire others and share them.

You may push someone to complete their goal when you share your motivational skills with others.

People want to live out their dreams and feel as if they have had a meaningful life. Most people want to be remembered once they are gone. People want others to remember them in a kind way. You may be able to help achieve this goal for many folks who do not know how to get started.

Search within yourself and find what your passion in life is.

Once you figure out what your passion is, you can discover what the purpose of your life will be.

By Anthony Wilson 


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